Have you ever thought of your relationship with your boss as a two-way management process?
Maybe not. Caged in the cliché of being handled by the boss, many employees forget that not only their boss manages them, but that they too have an active role in coordinating the manager.
This does not mean manipulating the garment to your liking, but rather modulating the approach and communication style to build a positive and fruitful relationship with the boss.
The advantage of handling the dynamics well with the boss? Create the foundations for future success and give your career a real chance.
Even more than sharp skills and concrete merits for successful jobs, building a fluid and productive relationship with the person in charge can represent an important boost for climbing positions.
It is he, moreover, who will evaluate the tasks carried out and who will give an opinion on the goodness of the work: therefore, survival in the company depends on him and the arrival – or not – of a deserved promotion.
Better run for cover now.
Becoming an ally of the boss: here’s how to do it in 5 steps
Aspiring leaders: it’s time to roll up your sleeves and really get involved to learn the key techniques to positively relate to the boss .
A challenge that, especially if you are a simple employee, supervisor or manager, you will have to face alone: most global companies, in fact, prefer to invest resources in the training of managers and super-senior figures, rather than spend on educating cooler levers.
Patience: here are some smart tips and simple to put into practice to connect with the boss and transform a forced coexistence into a constructive and precious relationship.
1. Get to know the boss
Before making any decisions or planning a possible strategy, arm yourself with a critical spirit and observe the boss . The target? Really understand who he is and what his fundamental traits are. An exercise for its own sake? Not at all: decoding the behavioral aspects of the manager and understanding his leadership style will help you to know the environment in which you operate and to avoid possible misunderstanding . An example? Knowing that your leader has an instinctive and intuition-driven approach, perhaps with numerous second thoughts, will not make you doubt that his constant change of decision is a lack of respect towards his subordinates. Knowing how to distinguish with certainty the cognitive and decision-making style of the boss is useful in order not to confuse a normal attitude of the leader with the presence of personal conflicts and frictions between you.
2. Define the communication style to use
Second, fundamental rule: learn to communicate with the boss by choosing the way he prefers. Don’t overwhelm him with instant messages if he hates technology, don’t call him on the phone if he doesn’t want to be disturbed live, while he’s in meeting . Do not report every single issue to him if he prefers an overall and periodic update. In short: ask him how he prefers to be contacted, both by what means and how often. And if you are afraid of asking him the question directly, observe him interacting with others , and copy the communication flows that bind him to his “proteges”.
3. Offer solutions, not problems
Third basic point: after having defined when and by what means to communicate with the boss, you must learn the best way to bring your doubts to his table.
Rather than pouring all the open criticalities on him, hoping for his direct solving intervention, come ready with possible solutions. You will demonstrate a sense of responsibility, a critical spirit, proactivity and, above all, respect for his time.
4. Indulge his priorities
We don’t want to turn you into pimps, but there’s no denying that to please the boss you have to offer him what he needs.
To do this, it is essential to understand what is important to him and act accordingly.
Want power and prestige? Make yourself available to help him celebrate his successes and do your utmost to support him with a quality product that can highlight him – and make you shine with reflected brightness – in front of his superiors.
Is he a control freak? Indulge him by scheduling more frequent recurring meetings and update him every night on activities completed during the day and open points to resume tomorrow. It may seem like a time-consuming activity, but precisely structuring the updating processes, creating a routine, can reassure a boss with low self-esteem.
5. Help him help you
Last, but not least, create a relationship of mutual exchange with the manager in which, in addition to satisfying his priorities, he too is committed in defining yours.
Having the manager’s attention and making sure that he is actively involved in assigning your tasks can help you better structure your daily work.
Rather than turn down new assignments with an unpleasant “I can’t take any more requests, I’m really full “, or on the contrary, keep quiet and find yourself overwhelmed with work and close to burnout, ask the boss to clearly prioritize you, among the many tasks you have to do.
In one go, you will let him know the amount of work you are doing and establish specific progress, agreeing on times and deadlines and avoiding being surprised by a “Not ready yet? I needed it for yesterday! ”.
These 5 tips, combined with common sense – never embarrass the boss or speak ill of the boss behind his back, rather clarify your grievances with him in private, choosing a low-tension moment – can concretely help you build a positive relationship with the manager, made up of trust and mutual respect. Don’t you also feel a delicious smell of promotion in the air?